Coaching for Change – Julie Crowley

by | May 27, 2024 | All Articles, Employee Engagement

How coaching can be used to make the necessary changes in your life.

When something isn’t right and not working for you then you know that something needs to change. Here, Julie Cowley, a Mindset Coach, explores how mindset coaching can help you make the steps necessary for positive change.

Your mind and body (stress) are telling you this so when you experience the fight/flight stress reaction to a perceived ‘threat’ your unconscious mind has recognised that something has to change in your life – and you have to consciously decide what unless it is glaringly obvious which is likely.

The confusion, uncertainty and decision-making this brings for people is why they seek help rather than often, trusting their own intuition versus the social expectations or what others tell them, they read.

Counselling and Coaching

Counselling might help people to explore their stress and anxieties but Coaching helps them manage this as well and qualified in both, I can hold both stances whilst moving you forward.

When you understand the underlying reasons there is often, too, an avoidance of making changes that are required of them. They don’t want to hear that a relationship isn’t working or the job is no longer right for them or they have more to offer.

Why not? Because it means effort and sometimes uncertainty about those next steps to find new perspectives, they want advice or solutions that realistically are within themselves anyway.

Coaching helps you to look at this more positively and proactively, taking control and feeling you have options going forward from this point too.

Recognition, Acceptance, Action

Therapy helps you find it what needs to change – so does coaching through reflection, discussion and refocussing inwards to look at your values, beliefs, expectations, needs and desires.

Deep down we know that something needs to change, perhaps ‘permission’ to make those changes that will benefit you or simply, initially, acceptance that your feelings are valid.

This can then help you move into change mode to start the transition with more confidence and clarity as to what direction to go in, step by manageable step.

Change is never comfortable for sure, even when you choose to change. Job promotion, moving house, family changes and relationships endings and starts – the transition period is one of flexing and adjustment that requires discomfort as well as more than usual effort.

How to create change

Let’s take an original change management model – forming, storming, norming and performing (FSNP) that was used to explain business changes for teams especially or restructures of organisations, take-overs and moves. It is still valid today.

Forming stage

People come together with or without a choice and are expected to work and live together easily. Yet it will not be easy or simple with different skillsets, goals, values and needs they each have to meet, this understanding and awareness takes time to learn and to share.

The team or family goals may well be clearly stated but each person within the group needs to adjust to the new environment and put their stamp on their place and assert their needs they need to meet within this new unchartered territory.

They may not know each other, like each other, work the same way or think and feel the same way, and have different values, perceptions, especially in a wider family or new organisation situation.

Storming stage

This always takes place and is uncomfortable but particularly for team managers who need to keep things on an even keel and keep performance and productivity at the same or better level!

As everyone adjusts to their roles and responsibilities, find their place in the community and how best to utilise their skillset as a team, working towards the common objectives of success for the organisation or the family group, it eases slightly.

Everyone learns how others work, where the boundaries lie with each other and the manager, the organisational goals they feed into and what is now expected from them.

This stage may include arguments and disagreements as everyone finds their feet and fights for their place in the team, to be heard, to do it their way or to take control where they haven’t had it with the imposed and possibly unexpected changes.

Norming stage

This stage may well include more helpful discussions rather than arguments, acceptance versus disputes and the beginnings for the next stage of developing ‘team cohesion’.

People learn or choose and settle into their place, their role and take up responsibilities their own way or at least with negotiation and compromise if not total co-operation yet.

Their input and the groups output as to what is expected and needed from each of them, the team starts to form and become a working team (a family, a relationship, a friendship or social group or sports team).

Performing stage

Whilst the other stages go on, some productivity is likely lost overall or individually by most if not all. That is par for the course.

This stage only arises once these stages are completed – the preferred, the expectations met or not, the required outcomes to achieve the organisation and team goals are on track again and developing at a faster pace. There is cohesion, there is output, there is action and co-operation.

The manager can breathe again and start their own process of settling into the role and delegating responsibilities, managing peoples needs and gaining the lead for the team or family ‘manager’.

The lead can start to develop responsibilities and trust, both ways, and establish more co-ordination between individuals, with other teams and services and provide what they need to going forward.

The performance and routines, the new procedures and accepted boundaries, the trust and leadership that comes with the various roles in various situations.

Similarly, this applies to home, personal and social as well as professional settings. It’s uncomfortable, uncertain, and unproductive or at least less productive, for a time but things settle into a ‘new normal’ and things move on.

This is a natural process for individuals experiencing change, for groups personally or
professionally whenever those many and varied changes happen to you throughout your life.
Acceptance and going with the flow can help you. But if not …

Coaching can help

Coaching will help you at each and all of these stages as your discuss your needs and feelings, your hopes and expectations and making tweaks in all those areas possibly.

You are able to express your needs and values and find ways to fit these in to this new situation, manage changes to your circumstances positively and proactively rather than stressing over trying to control it – this is how you take control of your situation and environment when you realise what is happening for you and why.

Reflecting then creating the next step on this new path onwards and upwards towards your personal self-actualising tendency – to grow, learn and develop new skills, understanding, awareness and opportunities.

Reflecting on what your future will look like, what comes next and then after that too.

Clear goals, clear path, clear steps to a better future and a lifetime of benefits with the continuing self-awareness and personal development growth mindset!

Different Coaching approaches can help in different ways – mindset to learning to go with the new flow; career coaching for planning your ultimate goal and the next stage towards this; personal coaching to better know your Self and your needs and how you will be able to meet those and hold your values; develop helpful boundaries so you manage your workloads that likely increase or not; relationship coaching for improved communication skills in your new role, team and purpose and conflict management or managing people enhancing your ‘soft skills’ and empathy especially if the change involves you being promoted.

Julie Crowley – Mindset Coach, NLP & Hypnosis Practitioner

Julie is a Mindset Coach, NLP & Hypnosis Practioner at ClearMind – providing personal coaching for business professionals.

Based in Saddleworth, near Oldham, Julie’s motto is “Removing barriers, Building dreams – Resolving problems, Building teams” and is available for face-to-face or online appointments.

Help us to Help You

To find out more about Julie’s services, feel free to drop us a line and we would be more than happy to introduce you to Julie – or please feel free to find out more about Clearmind, visit the Clearmind website.

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